
A week ago today our youth group loaded up and headed to Scranton, Pennsylvania not really knowing what lay ahead. Today we are on the road home. A lot has happened in the week between our road trips. We have worshiped. We have worked. We have laughed, cried, and experienced many emotions in between. We have met new friends and we have deepened relationships with the people we came with. We have seen the face of God in our co-workers and in the people in whose homes we worked.
On Friday we finished up the work on our projects. For my work crew it was a time of touching up work that we missed and saying goodbye to our host couple, Rose and Jim. For me our conversation evolved into something deeper. As the week had progressed I had learned the they had a grandson who had recently died by suicide. For the first half of the week Jim was in the hospital so we really hadn’t had the opportunity to talk much. On Friday, with our work completed and a little more relaxed time on our hands, I found myself sitting in Rose and Jim’s kitchen talking about Jim’s surgery, work, and their grandson.
One of the sad realities of having two children die is that I am often put in a position to reach out to other bereaved parents and grandparents. On this day I was able to share with this recently bereaved couple as they were trying to make sense of their loss and as they were trying to find some way of coping and moving forward. They are very fresh in their grief so healing is still a little way off. I was, however, able to affirm with them the intensity of their loss and how inadequate our understanding of these situations can be. More importantly, I was able to help them know that I cared and also that God was still with them in this tragic time.
So, I spent a week painting their deck and porch. I helped hang some handrails and a safety light. We washed and cleaned a little around their house. But it is, perhaps, this conversation and the prayer that followed that may be the most important work that I did this week. The human connection that makes sense of all the brush strokes and driving screws.
When I think of this week, I probably won’t think of the work on their house. It is possible the work on rebuilding their home life I was able to help with as I sat with them in their grief was more significant. This soul building may be the most important memory I will have of the week.











